a short dating guide for men by daisy moraa

I

if you like her, have courage and ask her out, the worst that could happen is that she will say no, and if she does, you will see that the world will not end, and who knows, maybe some day in the future you could have a chance with her if not someone else

II

if she shows interest, please take the cues — ladies still love to be pursued and wooed, and better yet, it allows you to play gentleman and wear the pants in the relationship. who said chivalry is dead?

III

call her ever so often, find out how she is doing, say you love hearing the sound of her voice, of her laughter — text her in the middle of the day — apologize when you are on the wrong, and even when you are not in the wrong; it is universal knowledge that women are always right even when they are wrong, so let it slide and  say you are sorry

IV

listen to her when she talks — yes, we know that we as women talk a hell lot, but really (here goes the grand secret) by listening you become her friend, her confidant, and that is one important way you can show that you care about her

V

treat her right — whether or not it is part of your nature to be wordy, compliment her on her dressing or hair or cooking (if it is worth the praise) — take her out on dates: every once in a while do something out of the norm; fancy restaurant maybe, or a picnic, or a nature trail; this is where your creativity comes to play — do not cheat — do not grieve her spirit with rude remarks or harsh remarks — if there is need for correction, be gentle; many a patriarchal man result to physical violence when in a tight situation. instead, learn to take your time to be calm, to be logical, allow for room to pacify things through reason — eventually how she sees the world is a reflection of your nature towards her, may it be that you will not retreat in horror when you see that reflection

VI

respect women despite their defects — we are all human, in a very human world

women hurt too — they have hopes, and dreams, and they too have feelings — do not (for vain reasons) be the source of their pain

VII

many a young men have not kept their word when it comes to the women they have encountered — learn to keep your word. if you say you will call, call her. if you say you will text her, text her. if you say you will take her out, take her out somewhere nice. if you say you intend to marry her, marry her, please. the world is full of girls with broken hearts full of despair when it comes to love, do not further accentuate this situation

in short, groom yourself into a man worthy of a woman’s love

16 Comments

  1. Sounds good right and reasonable, but this proper stuff doesn’t work on the current breed of women. Talking from experience here. The problem with advice like this is that it puts well meaning naive young men right in the firing line to be chewed up and spat out by the predatory females that represent the vast majority of womanhood today. Females sneer at nice guys while they are still hot young and beautiful toasts of the town. This is advice for a serious man who already loves a quality woman. To find either today is extremely rare.

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  2. Sounds good right and reasonable, but this proper stuff doesn't work on the current breed of women. Talking from experience here. The problem with advice like this is that it puts well meaning naive young men right in the firing line to be chewed up and spat out by the predatory females that represent the vast majority of womanhood today. Females sneer at nice guys while they are still hot young and beautiful toasts of the town. This is advice for a serious man who already loves a quality woman. To find either today is extremely rare.

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  3. lovely wonderful piece, i loved the last statement, keep your word or don’t let it out of your mouth if you don’t mean it,simple.

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  4. lovely wonderful piece, i loved the last statement, keep your word or don't let it out of your mouth if you don't mean it,simple.

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